Till The Wheels Fall Off
Till The Wheels Fall Off (TWFO) podcast is hosted by Matt and Paige Robinson. TWFO focuses primarily on the relationship dynamics between spouses and partners of alcoholics or addicts and ways to best navigate the difficulties of codependent, addicted, unstable, and narcissistic behavior. The program is enjoyable and informative for anyone seeking self-betterment, inspiration, perspective, or direction with themes ranging from boundaries, recovery, marriage, and parenting with tons of humor built in. With over twenty years of experience in codependency recovery, addiction recovery, mental health battles, and navigating life's hurdles, the duo offers a valuable and unique perspective that is both inspiring and relatable.
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Episodes
261 episodes
# 261 - Mindset Monday: Rehab Q&A; Thoughts on Treatment
Rehab is a reset, not a miracle. In this straight talk Q&A, Matt answers the questions we hear most from spouses, partners, and people heading to treatment. What actually happens day to day, how detox works, why some centers involve family ...
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#260 - Paige's Perspective: How We Misuse Recovery Language (and What to Do Instead)
In this episode, Paige gets real about something she’s noticed in the healing and recovery space: the temptation to use growth language as a weapon. When we finally find words for our pain, it can feel powerful; but if we start using t...
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#259 - Separate the Behaviors from the Addiction
This week we’re taking a short break from recording and revisiting a powerful episodes from mid 2024, Separate the Behaviors from the Addiction. How much should you focus on the substance? To what degree is the substance re...
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1:14:28
#258 - Guys, Let's Start Talking
This one’s for both sides of the table - the person who’s sober but still hiding, and the partner who’s done begging for honesty.If you’re trying to rebuild, this is how we did it.If you’ve already walked away, this may remind you...
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#257 - Paige's Perspective: The Healing Swing No One Talks About
In this week’s Paige’s Perspective, I’m talking about something most people don’t discuss enough: the pendulum swing in healing. It’s that moment when you go from being quiet and careful to suddenly not caring what anyone thinks. You’ve spent y...
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#256 - The Rest vs Grind Episode
Burnout anyone? Whether it's recovery and healing burnout, work burnout, health and fitness burnout, or flat-out-burned out burnout Let's compare two honest approaches to stress and growth. One of us has lived by all gas, no brakes. The other k...
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#255 - Mindset Monday: Reigniting Your Fire After Burnout
Have you hit a wall lately and wondered if it’s time to walk away? Whether it's your recovery, a relationship, a job, or something that one held deep meaning to you...we get tired. I just went through this...In this mindset Monday Matt talks ab...
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#254 - Paige's Perspective: You’re Allowed to Pause
This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about what it really means to take a breather in your healing. Sometimes it feels like you’re doing everything “right,” from therapy and journaling to podcasts and growth work, and you still hit a...
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#253 - Betrayal Trauma
We’re taking a short break from recording and re-releasing a powerful episode — Betrayal Trauma. This conversation was originally recorded in 2024, and while our language and understanding have evolved since then, the message still...
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#252 - Paige's Perspective: When “Just Stay Positive” Stops Working
In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m breaking down the difference between toxic positivity and the power of pivoting. We’ll talk about how social media, family, and even traditional recovery spaces sometimes ...
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#251 - Why “One Day at a Time” Isn’t What You Think
“What if” feeds anxiety. “Even if” builds a plan. In this episode we unpack what “one day at a time” actually looks like for both spouses and people in recovery. We break down how to use it as a call to action instead of a reason to wait it out...
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#250 - Mindset Monday: Shame
Shame can keep you stuck in self-judgment or help you grow, depending on what you do with it. In this Mindset Monday, Matt talks about what shame really is, where it comes from, and how to move through it without collapsing or running from it. ...
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#249 - Paige's Perspective: You’re Not Overreacting: Why We Minimize Instead of Catastrophize
Many spouses believe they’re catastrophizing — blowing things out of proportion, imagining the worst — when in reality, they’re minimizing. In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we explore how minimization shows up as a survival strategy, how...
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#248 - Is What They Say When They’re Drunk True?
You’ve probably heard the saying, “A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts” But is that really true? In this episode, we break down drunken honesty and get real about what alcohol does (and doesn’t) change. From the science of l...
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#247 - Mindset Monday: Living Amends Aren't Enough
In this Mindset Monday, Matt tackles a listener’s question about “living amends” - why they’re often a cop-out in recovery and never enough to repair a relationship. He breaks down why true amends require naming the harm, validating the pain, a...
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#246 - Paige's Perspective: Turning Guilt Into Growth
In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about the power of change and choices. How many times have you thought, “I’ve messed up. I’ll never change. I’ll never be enough”? Maybe it was after snapping at your kids,...
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#245 - Parenting Through Triggers; When Your Kids Act Like Your Spouse
When your child’s tone, excuses, or sneaky moments feel eerily familiar, it can trigger real fear - are we replaying my partner’s behaviors? In this episode, we unpack the difference between normal child development and harmful adult p...
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#244 - Mindset Monday: The Myth of the “Good Dad”
We’ve all heard it: “At least he’s a good dad.” It sounds comforting, but it’s often a cover for hard truths. In this Mindset Monday, we dig deep into what fatherhood really means - and why showing up at games, birthday parties, or pos...
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1:20:44
#243 - Paige's Perspective: Not All Stress Is Bad - How to Spot What Builds You vs. What Breaks You
In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I break down the difference between eustress (productive stress that builds resilience) and unsafe stress (toxic, chronic stress that erodes your health and peace). We’ll explore wh...
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#242 - How To Support Someone In Recovery
“How do I support their recovery?” is probably the most common question families ask in addiction recovery, but the answers they get are often vague, contradictory, and unfair. In this episode, we unpack what treatment centers hand out to famil...
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1:25:39
#241 - Mindset Monday: Values Over Moods
Emotional intelligence is not soft. It is how you stop letting feelings run the show and start letting values drive your choices. In this Mindset Monday I break down what emotional intelligence really is, why it decides the quality of your marr...
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#240 - Paige's Perspective: The Truth Behind Your Triggers
In this Paige’s Perspective, we get honest about triggers; the sounds, smells, and behaviors that send spouses of addicts into panic. Too often, these reactions are dismissed as character defects or controlling behavior. The truth? Triggers are...
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#239 - Partners Are Not Collateral
Spouses are told to learn the addict, but who teaches the addict what their choices did to the spouse’s brain, safety, and sense of self? In this conversation, Matt and Paige build on Paige’s recent mini episode to name the gap in traditional r...
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#238 - Mindset Monday: Patterns Don't Lie
Our brains love comfort, routine, and the familiar - even when the familiar keeps us stuck. In this Mindset Monday, Matt breaks down pattern recognition: why we miss our own loops, how denial and rationalization create blind spots, and h...
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#237 - Paige's Perspective: Why Spouses Deserve More Than Addiction Education
In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I dig into a powerful comment from one of our listeners: “As the spouse, I’m basically told to become an expert on their addiction, yet they don’t have to become an expert on my trauma.”...
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