The 4 Layers of Trust: What Rebuilding Actually Looks Like

If you’ve heard this from a partner or found yourself asking it, this episode breaks down exactly why rebuilding trust isn’t a single moment. It’s a layered process that takes time, consistency, and real change.

In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige walk you through the four essential layers of trust that had to be rebuilt after addiction nearly destroyed their relationship:

• Sobriety Safety - the non-negotiable foundation
• Functional Trust - parenting, money, and showing up
• Emotional Safety - being vulnerable without fear
• Relationship Safety - becoming true partners again

They share real-life examples, including a powerful listener story, and explain what it takes to rebuild trust with someone who’s harmed you without gaslighting, shortcuts, or toxic positivity.

If you've ever wondered, "How do I know if it's safe to trust again?" this is the episode you need.